I’ve been excited to start meeting guys in my new city (LA – same as you! And if they do say hello, the emails are boring – “Hey, I’m thinking of getting some sun this weekend. ” Or they make me think these guys have me on a pedestal – “If you don’t mind me saying, I think you are beautiful, and your profile seems so genuine. ” I’ve taken your advice and posted pics of me looking fun, cute and active: wedding guest/bridesmaid pics, vacation pics, a fun sibling shot (labeled “with my bro and sis.”) So what is the deal? I’m thinking, “We are SO alike, why aren’t you responding? –Angie There are two entirely separate issues being discussed here: one is your frustration with online dating overall, the other is with the nuances of how it’s done. First of all, I want you to consider all the other places that you could meet thirtysomething men in Los Angeles.
It seems there are plenty of men looking on these sites but hardly any saying hello! In my bio, I basically state I am a “retired jetsetter who still wants to have fun, but do it on a local level.” I’ve read a bunch of profiles and tried to reach out to men who were my equals, both in lifestyle and dating goals, but these guys haven’t responded.
It takes time to grieve and heal after the end of a marriage. It will likely take more than 6 months for a guy to be ready for serious dating.
In fact, it often takes 1-2 years to properly process a divorce on an emotional level and truly be present enough to start another committed relationship. Or worse, does he lean on you for support about his relationship with his ex?
Plus, you can use them to determine if YOU are ready to date after your own break up.
Almost always, it’s a bad idea to date a man who is only separated, or whose divorce is still in the works.
It’s a bad strategy on their part, but you have to understand that they’re FAILURES and be a little more sympathetic to them.